Tackling Low Self-Esteem Problems in Children and Teenagers Articles | Parenting

By: Darren Williger

Heightened cases of low self-esteem may affect the ability of children and teenagers to avoid harmful influences such as drugs, sex and alcohol. A higher level of self-esteem on the other hand can help children find the necessary courage to shun peer pressure and remain steadfast with the right beliefs and behavior. With the right amount of self-esteem people develop an improved sense of self-belief and the feeling that they can achieve what they want to achieve. These are traits that any parent would want their children to have.

Despite this fact too many teenagers suffer from low self-esteem and self-confidence related problems. Different changes in their bodies and their minds can hamper the way they feel about themselves and lead them to make decisions they may regret later on in life.

As a parent these are some of the cues that may be necessary to help you understand if your children are developing any self-esteem related issues.

• Change in Appearance. If a child has always been previously paying attention to their appearance and suddenly seeks to neglect the way they dress and look, it may be an onset of a case of low self-esteem.
• Extreme Case for Perfection. Any unnatural exertion on the part of a child to achieve perfection may be as a result of low self-esteem. A child who studys hard is one thing but an unnatural exertion towards the achievement of perfection is another thing entirely. If your child also finds coping with criticism difficult then there may be trouble as well.
• Fear of Trying Something New. Children always want to constantly try new things and have new experiences. Any child who always runs away from trying any new activity may lack the self-confidence and belief in their abilities.

• Belittling Others and Themselves. Lack of self-esteem in a child will lead to a child often belittling themselves and others even when they achieve something. Children should be able to accept the challenges of life and cope with them effectively.

If you see any of these symptoms in your own children you can easily take steps to prevent them and take these steps to help your children overcome these problems.

• Talk Carefully. Don’t criticize children unnecessarily and offer the right amounts of praise where necessary.
• Be Positive. A positive influence usually helps when you’re around children. If you have a positive outlook on life, it will affect the behavior of your children in turn as they will seek to emulate you.
• Show Affection. The necessary amounts of hugs and commendation will make your children feel accepted and welcome.