One Man’s Story of Success in Online Dating: Articles | Parenting

From casual hookups to long-term relationships, the world of online dating has changed drastically. Some women are afraid to meet or really get to know a guy because they are afraid they may be a pervert, rapist, or any other of the dozens of things they hear about from their friends, new, etc…So what should a guy do to meet a nice gal?

1. Don’t pressure them: Pressure is something they have plenty of in their offline life. Being too pushy can actually push them away. It can drive a woman to quit talking all together!

2. Wait until they are ready to talk: Tell jokes women love laughter…make them smile and feel special. Chat with light conversation they will open up when they are ready.

3. Never ask for personal information: This is a complete turn off…if a guy is pushing them to give their name, phone number…address they will usually just stop talking. That is the opposite reaction you want. If they like you they will give it to you…but in their own time!

4. Listen to them and be courteous of their feelings: Most women are emotional making sure that you listen to the daily activities they are trying to share with you will gain more trust. They will feel they can open up to you. Make them feel like their little things matter!

5. Don’t lie about who you are: Be honest with them about how you look, where you work and how you feel. This will build more trust. No women wants a relationship built on a lie…how will you explain it when you meet that you are not a 6’4’ stud with golden curly hair if you are 5’2’ and have a beer belly!

6. Meet in Public: If and when you get to this step it will show you have not bad intentions if you meet somewhere public and during the day. Suggest that she bring one of her friends this will help keep her comfortable. Allow her to pick the place where you will meet and make sure you know what she is wearing.

Remember when you are meeting her she needs to feel safe. She needs to know you are not out to hurt her. Be polite and go where she wants to until she sees what a real gem you really are! The key to keeping your relationship is never to push her or make her do something she is not comfortable with. Don’t try to change yourself. Be who you are and relax when you are around her. If she doesn’t like you for who you are she wasn’t a good match for you anyway there are other fish in the sea!